Enjoy Every Single Step In Your Journey

Have you ever had one of those days,
where nothing at all that monumental happens,
but by the end of it,
You have no idea of who you are anymore,
or what the hell you’re doing with your life?

I think, in career terms, that’s what happened for me right now. I know, as I grown-up, there is always a new areas of experience, where I have no guidelines, handle things badly, overreact, & get it wrong. And again, I have to face it & just deal with it. You see, when you reach at some stages of age on life, you might be surprised to discover you still don’t have life quite figured out. Especially, when your best plans are not working as you liked. Then, it’s leaning to a self-doubt, future-worried, and fear. All negativity starting to flash on mind, & self-confidence slightly fade away. Because, honestly, When everything in our life is right on track, it’s easy to believe that things happen for a reason, it’s easy to have faith, and also easy to give an advice or motivate others. But when things start to go wrong, then it’s very hard to hold on to that faith. It’s hard not to wonder what reasons these things happen for. At the first place, the whole story looks so predictable. Study hard, go to college, graduate, then find a secure job, planning pension, meet a woman, and built a family. But in reality, even to get all of those predictable story arc, are not as simple as it sounds.

The real problem starts now, near around my mid-20′s, when I get thrown out into the world to do “whatever I want to” and realize that actually, the majority of the time is just been spent for surviving and helping others to survive. Kind of a bummer, especially when I spend the majority of my early 20′s of days looking forward to the freedom of being an adult to chase all my goals. This realization is enough to cripple me. I know, the career path that I’ve chosen since a year ago will make me to deal a lot with uncertainty. Back to that time, I believed I can handle the challenge, and just being happy & excited to take it step by step. But, what I didn’t know is that dealing with uncertainty itself  is very stressful, especially when I experienced with my own-head to miss the best opportunity. And, I just can’t help myself to clear some air from all these future-worried.  

Yeah, surely, now is the kind of time in my life at “the down” phase,

and, maybe this is exactly the times to behave & learn a lot as an adult..
To measure myself at least once with nothing to help me,
except my hands and my own head..
Well, for now, all I can think about, is to take “a leap of faith” route..

Financial Freedom = Happiness

It’s not your salary that makes you rich,
it’s your spending habits..
Don’t let your fantasies speed-up your reality..
Bury your financial fantasies,
work hard, spend & invest wisely..
~ Charles A. Jaffe

Most people said, money isn’t important, or money does not buy happiness. How many times have you heard this? Lots of times, I am willing to bet!!! Many will argue that money is an object that, while making life a little easier, doesn’t or can’t buy happiness. My view is slightly different, and I think I’ve had enough “education” in this regard. I mean, I do subscribe to the notion that money isn’t everything, but I also believe that it is a major, critical facet of life today. If we can take the need for money out of our life’s equation then we will be free to live life as it’s meant to be lived. But as long as it remains a means for survival, nobody can tell me money isn’t important or doesn’t create an immense amount of unhappiness and stress.

I mean, after pass the college and living in reality for few months, met a lot of people that having different socio-economic life, I realize that it’s not about “the money itself”, but the most important thing is the saving, or a sufficient continuous income. Because, our savings, believe it or not, affect the way we stand, the way we walk, and our self-confidence. What I understand, the harsh truth is that, a man without savings is always running. He must take the first job offered. He sits nervously on life’s chairs because any small emergency throws him into the hands of others. Without savings, a man is often fearful of the present and the future. Being in a constant state of fear is a horrible way to live, right?

A man with savings can walk tall. He may appraise opportunities in a relaxed way, have time for judicious estimates and intelligent decisions. He need not be rushed by life’s problems or economic necessity. Then, for sure the question is how much money do we really need? The answers to these questions depends on our lifestyle and what our material needs are. So, as the saying goes, the main goals are not the money, but to gain a financial freedom. Please note, It isn’t the same as being rich. Although people often confuse the two, they are completely separate goals.

So, how do you build it? Based on my experienced, the best way to achieve our financial goals is to have stable income, that comes from a good career, whether as employee or entrepeneur. And, our decision about what career path to take, should not be solely driven by money, however. Ideally, our career should involve work we find interesting and which we can identify with. Working just for a paycheck is to “have a job”, not a career..Well, the answer is slightly different for everyone, maybe. But it’s an answer we should be seeking. For me, it’s just simple, financial freedom mean as not needing to worry about money. In simple words, financial freedom = Happiness..

Life for better future

I’m 22 years old, and suddenly, life is not so cool anymore. There’s some part of me that cringe as I approach this age. This milestone tend to get me thinking a lot & heavy, where I have to analyze every aspect, and surely on real-based. I know, who we are today is reflection about what we’ve done in the past, and who we are in the future is based on what we’ve done & decided today, right?

As I grow older, there are a lot of good moments happened in life, and they make life worth living. But the problem is, moments pass, and lurking around the corner from those moments is a cruel, named reality. I know it may sound stupid, but I didn’t always feel so great about myself growing up. But, It’s time to let go of the fantasies, It’s time to living in reality.

Where is it going? Who I’m gonna be in 10-15 years more? Where is place that I have to settle? What should I have done differently? Am I really happy with my life? Etc, and etc.. Then I start thinking about all the things in life that I haven’t done yet too.

Maybe this doesn’t happen to everyone, but it certainly happened to me. Because honestly, I really don’t want to just living life as if I had no choices, just like ” let the chips fall where they may”. But the problem is, some “fantasy” involved. As I reach 22, I really have to “delete” the fantasy part. Truth is, it’s quite scary.

A Letter from "Mom and Dad"

My child,

When I get old, I hope you understand ‘…n have patience with me

In case I break the plate, or spill soup on the table because I’m losing my eyesight, I hope you don’t yell at me.

Older people are sensitive, always having self pity when you yell.

When my hearing gets worse ‘n I can’t hear what you’re saying, I hope you don’t call me ‘Deaf!’

Please repeat what you said or write it down.

I’m sorry, my child.

I’m getting older.

When my knees get weaker, I hope you have the patience to help me get up.

Like how I used to help you while you were little, learning how to walk.

Please bear with me, when I keep repeating myself like a broken record, I hope you just keep listening to me.

Please don’t make fun of me, or get sick of listening to me.

Do you remember when you were little ‘n you wanted a ballon? You repeated yourself over ‘n over until you get what you wanted.

Please also pardon my smell. I smell like an old person.Please don’t force me to shower.

My body is weak.

Old people get sick easily when they’re cold. I hope I don’t gross you out.

Do you remember when you were little? I used to chase you around because you didn’t want to shower.

I hope you can be patient with me when I’m always cranky. It’s all part of getting old.

You’ll understand when you’re older.

‘n if you have spare time, I hope we can talk even for a few minutes.

I’m always all by myself all the time, ‘n have no one to talk to.

I know you’re busy with work.

Even if you’re not interested in my stories, please have time for me.

Do you remember when you were little? I used to listen to your stories about your teddy bear.

When the time comes, ‘n I get ill ‘n bedridden, I hope you have the patience to take care of me.

I’m sorry if I accidentally wet the bed or make a mess.

I hope you have the patience to take care of me during the last few moments of my life.

I’m not going to last much longer, anyway.

When the time of my death comes, I hope you hold my hand ‘n give me strength to face death.

‘n don’t worry..

When I finally meet our creator, I will whisper in his ear to bless you. Because you loved your Mom ‘n Dad.

Thank you so much for your care.

We love you. ! ♥